Meeting new people is exciting, but you should always be cautious when interacting with someone you don’t know. Whether you are exchanging initial messages or meeting in person, use your best judgment and put your safety first. While you can’t control the actions of others, there are things you can do to help you stay safe during your Fleggi experience.

Online Safety

Never Send Money or Share Financial Information

Never send money, especially over wire transfer, even if the person claims to be in an emergency. Wiring money is like sending cash — it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace where the money went. Never share information that could be used to access your financial accounts. If another user asks you for money, report it to us immediately.

For tips on avoiding romance scams, check out some advice from the U.S. Federal Trade Commission on the FTC website.

Protect Your Personal Information

Never share personal information, such as your social security number, home or work address, or details about your daily routine (e.g., that you go to a specific gym every Monday) with people you don’t know. If you are a parent, limit the information that you share about your children on your profile and in early communications. Avoid sharing details such as your children’s names, where they go to school, or their ages or genders.

Stay on the Platform

Keep conversations on the Fleggi platform while you’re getting to know someone. Because exchanges on Fleggi are subject to our Safe Message Filters, users with bad intentions often try to move the conversation to text, messaging apps, email, or phone right away.

Be Wary of Long Distance and Overseas Relationships

Watch out for scammers who claim to be from your country but are stuck somewhere else, especially if they ask for financial help to return home. Be wary of anyone who will not meet in person or talk on a phone/video call—they may not be who they say they are. If someone is avoiding your questions or pushing for a serious relationship without meeting or getting to know you first — that’s a red flag.

Report All Suspicious and Offensive Behavior

You know when someone’s crossed the line, and when they do, we want to know about it. Block and report anyone that violates our terms. Here are some examples of violations:

• Requests for money or donations
• Underage users
• Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
• Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after meeting in person
• Fraudulent profiles
• Spam or solicitation including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services

You can report any concerns about suspicious behavior from any profile page or messaging window. For more information, check out our Community Guidelines.

Protect Your Account

Be sure to pick a strong password, and always be careful when logging into your account from a public or shared computer. Fleggi will never send you an email asking for your username and password information — if you receive an email asking for account information, report it immediately.

In-Person Meeting Safety

Take Your Time

Before deciding to meet or communicate with someone on Fleggi, take your time to get to know the other person. Don’t be scared to probe for red flags or personal deal-breakers by asking inquiries. Before a meeting, a phone or video conference can be an effective screening technique.

Meet at a Public Place and Stay in a Public Place

Meet at a crowded, public venue for the first several dates — never at your house, your date’s home, or any other private spot. End the date if the date pushes you to go somewhere private.

Inform Your Friends and Family of Your Plans

Inform a friend or family member of your plans, including the time and location. Keep your phone charged and close by at all times.

Take Command of Your Transportation

We want you to be in charge of your transportation to and from your date so you may leave whenever you want. If you’re driving yourself, having a backup plan in place, such as a ride-sharing app or a friend to pick you up, is a good idea.

Recognize Your Limits

Be mindful of how drugs or alcohol affect you personally because they can impair your judgment and awareness. If your date tries to get you to do drugs or drink excessively, walk away.

Drinks and Personal Items Should Not Be Left Unattended

Only take drinks poured or served straight from the bartender or waitress; know where your drink came from and where it is at all times. Many of the drugs poured into drinks to enable sexual assault have no odor, color, or taste. Also, always keep your phone, handbag, wallet, and anything else containing personal information with you.

If You’re Uncomfortable, Get Out

If you’re uneasy, it’s fine to end the date early. It’s encouraged. And if something doesn’t feel right or you feel frightened, ask the bartender or server for assistance.

Consent & Sexual Health

Take Care of Yourself

Condoms, when used appropriately and consistently, can dramatically minimize the risk of contracting and transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as HIV. However, STIs such as herpes or HPV can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact. Vaccination can minimize the chance of developing some STIs.

Know Your Status

You don’t want to be in the dark about your STI status because not all STIs have symptoms. By getting tested on a regular basis, you can stay on top of your health and avoid the spread of STIs.

Let’s Talk About It

It’s all about communication: Discuss sexual health and STI testing with your partner before being physically intimate. Also, keep in mind that passing a STI on purpose is illegal in some states.

Consent

All sexual engagement should begin with your partner’s agreement and include regular check-ins. You and your partner can use verbal communication to ensure that you and your partner respect each other’s boundaries. Consent can be revoked at any time, and no one owes anyone sex. If your partner appears uneasy or unsure, or if your partner is unable to consent due to the effects of drugs or alcohol, do not proceed.

This safety advice is designed to help you enjoy your experience on Fleggi while staying safe and informed. Always prioritize your well-being and don’t hesitate to report anything suspicious.